Every relationship is different. Therefore, if they come to an end, they may end in different ways. Some don’t actually end, they just change to something new. Some you might want to end, but they cannot because you must carry on some sort of relationship due to unbreakable links that bond you to the other person. And others just END. Maybe good, maybe bad.. but they END.
That ending process can have many different faces. It could be a healing process if you were left, or hurt. It could be a process of accepting new freedom if you made the decision that you were not happy and needed to ‘free’ yourself of the other person. Or it could be an understanding of the relationship not being right, simple acceptance and moving along.
Regardless of the type of ending or change the relationship went through, moving on from a relationship eventually means moving into new relationships. And it would be wise for you to analyze your last relationship and what you added to it that made it what it was.
Life’s experiences should make us into better people, but they will only do that if we learn from them and make any necessary changes. So when you get to a point, and BEFORE you move into another relationship, it would be a great benefit to both you and your future ‘partner’ if you looked back on your part in your last relationship and asked yourself “what should I change”.
Maybe you decide you shouldn’t change anything. You are who you are and anyone who can’t accept that isn’t right for you. But maybe, who you were needs some tweaking. Maybe there are some things you did that you might just want to change next time around. Maybe there are some things that looking back on them, you realize they weren’t who you want to be, and they aren’t what you want to do to someone you want to love, and whom you want to love you back.
At some point you have to say.. “I must learn from my past and analyze who I was, what I did, and what I am going to change. The next person that gets me, get’s a better me than the last person.” Isn’t that something that we should all strive for? Self improvement? Of course, this doesn’t mean that you conform or turn into something you don’t WANT to be, that wont work. You will only be living a lie then. If there is nothing to change then good for you. But if there are changes to be made, then you better get started, because it’s going to take time to change.
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