There is obviously a lot of love.  More love than hate. More love than sex.  Want proof?

Do me a favor, go to Google and type in ‘love’.  TWO BILLION results.  That’s a lot of love. Let’s see; Hate returns 298 million, God weighs in at 555 million Sex? (the internet is for porn you know) comes in at 762 million.  But love crushes them all with 2 BILLION results.

Well, maybe there isn’t a lot of love…  Maybe there are just a lot of people looking for it.  Funny, considering there are 6.6 billion people on the planet and most of them are capable of giving love.  The problem with love is that it is not easily defined.  Most people have their own definition for what love is.

Dictionary.com says love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person…

Of course to fully understand that, you have to break down the words ‘profoundly’, ‘passionate’ and ‘affection’.  So let me do that.

Profound- Penetrates deeply into ones being

Passion- Compelled by INTENSE emotion.

Affection- attachment and devotion.
So Love is an intense feeling of attachment and devotion that penetrates one deeply into their being making them soft and vulnerable.  Basically you feel in deep in your soul or into the core of your being that you should be with that person whom you love and that feeling leaves you exposed to them crushing you like a bug.  The feeling is so intense it gives the illusion of NEED.  You feel you need that person.  (Some people believe that people can become so deeply in love with another that they actually give up on life and DIE when the one they love is gone).

Most people don’t ever reach that level of love.  A level that makes them TRUELLY need the one they love.  Most of the people who do reach that level are women, because it is natural for them to be attached to a male, and give their whole being to that person.  Having said that, A LOT of people THINK they are there.  The THINK they NEED that person, and I don’t blame those people for thinking that.  Because at the time they believe it they do NEED that person to be happy.  But like most people they will be able to get over it and move on.  They will learn to live without the person they ‘Love’.  And they will also probably make an adjustment in the future to their definition of love once they have been crushed.

There new definition of love may be brought down to an intense feeling of attachment and devotion which leaves them soft and vulnerable.  Notice that their definition no longer penetrates them deeply into their being.  That is what they have redefined love as.  So they tell you they love you. But your definition of love is the original TRUE definition, yet they have altered their definition (not completely consciously mind you) they are cheating you out of what you are really supposed to be getting when a person tells you they love you.

Sadly, it doesn’t end there.  Let’s throw out the people that just lie and say they love you to make you think they love you when they really don’t, to take advantage of you.   That is a whole other topic.  And it’s really a topic for the foolish.

No.. the person can alter Love even further away from the definition, maybe after they have been crushed a second time, or maybe the first time was enough to push it this far.  But you could get with someone and they tell you they love you but they have changed their definition of love to: a feeling of attachment and desire.

Now it could fall somewhere in between any of the other possible combinations.  But this one is the one that sucks the most.  The person has taken their definition of love down to just a feeling of attachment and DESIRE.  Notice the word DEVOTION has been replaced with DESIRE.  If I have to explain the difference to you, then you have no need to be reading a blog on love anyway.

So the person tells you they love you, but what they really mean is “Hey I like being with you and around you, when I got the time.  But don’t fool yourself into thinking that it will do anything to me if we can’t be together.”

This is why the word LOVE sucks.  It has 2 Billion results on Google, because it is used so much and means so many different things.  If I ever again fall in love with another woman, I will make sure I evaluate at that point in time what my definition of love is.  Or if another woman ever tells me that she loves me I will make sure she defines what love is.  If she uses the word “Need” that is probably a good indicator that she feels it deep into her being, and that she is soft and vulnerable.

Unless of course the person is just lying when they tell you they love you.  They know they don’t and yet they still say it.  In which case you never want to be with them anyway, nobody worth anything wants to be with someone like that.

This isn’t being written FOR anyone in particular.  I know there are at least 4 people and probably more like 6-7 people that I know who will read this and think I am writing it for them.  I’m not.  I write for me.  Not for anyone else.

And as always, this is just my opinion. It could be wrong.
Have a good week everyone.

‘BIG’ Jay