One of the most annoying things someone can say to you when you are suffering from a broken heart is that there are “plenty of fish in the sea”. I don’t know about you, but I have never fallen in love with a fish. I have never cried over a fish. I have never shared a bed with a fish. And a fish has never told me it loved me.
But even if all that had happened, if I lost the fish I loved, the fact that there are more fish would not comfort me. It is actually a pretty heartless thing to say to someone when you think about it. Whenever a person loses someone they love, whether it is through a break-up or death, a person must go through a grief process. That is, IF they had love for the person they lost.
The best thing you can do for a person is help them through their grief. LISTEN to what they have to say, and give them your comfort. Because that is what they need, they don’t need you to downplay their loss. And even though you might think your fish in the sea comment is helping, it doesn’t. The person knows there are other people in the world, but right now, they don’t care.
And by the time the person has reached the acceptance part of the grieving process and is starting to move on they already know there are more fish and got out their bait. So there is NEVER a good time to tell a person there are more fish in the sea. So I’m starting a petition to put an end to that stupid ass metaphor.
What do you think? Can we do that? Lets put “There are more fish in the see” the same place the macarena is.. ok?
Thanks.
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