I didn’t write this.. My brother did..
But I figured I would repost it on my blog because man is it ever true.. I have been reminded of it today.. So I figured I would post it on my blog for those that don’t read his, so they can read it.
One thing I have learned about women over the years is that there is one thing they must have at all costs: security. They have this need to feel secure at all times in their life. To some people this may seem obvious, but to a lot of men it’s a difficult thing to understand. And while it’s become obvious to me, it’s still not something I think I will ever understand.
I understand that a woman wants to feel secure, who doesn’t? I get that. I understand that a woman wants to know what the future holds; she wants to know that she can depend on certain things to be ok. She wants security in all parts of her life, again who doesn’t?
But what becomes totally baffling and even frustrating is when a woman makes a choice in her life that naturally is going to cause her life to become insecure and yet still expects it to remain secure.
There is one specific example I am getting at here. Its women and their expectations of the men they “step away from”. I say “step away from” because it seems that in a woman’s mind that is all she is doing, she is not leaving him, she is not ending things, instead, in her mind she is just putting him up for now.
Sometimes a woman will start to wonder if maybe the grass is greener somewhere else, or in other words, maybe she could be happier with someone else. Now the right thing to do would be to end things with the man and then go in search of the greener grass. This would make sense. But women don’t work that way. They need to be secure. So they are not going to leave what they have before they have something else to replace it and they feel secure with the new situation.
But what’s even more frustrating is, after she has told you she is not happy with you and she has a new man (or more realistically you find out yourself because if she tells you then you might move on) and after you have accepted that and began to move on with your life, you find out that in her mind she was not really done with you at all. In her mind she just put you up like a toy she got tired of. She puts you away and pays you no attention but she still knows where you are just incase she needs you, just incase she decides she wants to play with the old toy again, just incase the new toy breaks and she has no other toys but you.
Really it’s am almost perfect analogy. When it comes to their past men, women are like children and their toys. Ever see young children playing together in a toy room? Ever see Sue put a toy down and pick up another toy to play with it, then Billy picks up the toy that was put down and starts playing with it, then Sue sees it and goes nuts on the other child? Billy is thinking “What the hell? It was just lying on the floor; you have another toy you are playing with. Why are you freaking out?” But Sue is thinking “I might want to play with that toy again and now he has it.” The only thing wrong with this analogy is the toy in the middle doesn’t have feelings, doesn’t know what is going on. If it did what do you suppose the toy would be thinking?
I have yet to see a case where a woman was not happy with a relationship, found someone else, and truly let the old man go. What I see happen is the woman decides she might be happier with someone else and makes a choice to be with someone else. Then the man comes to terms and begins to move on with his life and eventually finds some one else as well. It’s the natural thing to do to move on and get past the hurt, but little does he know that this will be the trigger that releases hell upon his life.
Some women will go so far as to make efforts to restore their relationship with you when they see you are moving on. They will do this to keep their hold on you and keep you where they want you. They will do this to destroy your potential new relationship because its a threat to their security. And then once they have gotten you back from the other child who was playing with the toy they will drop you on the floor once again.
Once a man tires of this or realizes this and makes a choice to move on regardless of the womans fits, a transformation will take place. The event of moving on and finding someone else will turn this woman who gave you every reason to believe she was done with you into a vengeful, hateful, evil bitch. She will make every effort to destroy you and any relationship you try to form with someone else, she will put all the blame on you, she will play the victim, she will threaten, she will do evil things that you could never imagine someone who once loved you could do to hurt you and make your life hell even though she was the one who wanted the greener grass.
Beware of this. While you may never understand it, you must know it and be prepared for it. No matter how much it may seem to you that she has let you go, in her mind you are still hers, you are expected to sit there on the shelf waiting for the day she needs you again. That day most likely will never come but it doesn’t matter to her. She expects you to be there if she ever needs to come back, she expects that security.
I have seen this over and over with woman after woman, and not just the one’s that I have been involved with. It seems that this is something that is just natural to all women.
Now.. as I said.. my brother wrote this. I personally have seen it from both men and women. BUT.. it is more often done by women. Men do it too.. but not as often as women.
Bottom line.. It’s pretty childish… Grow up people. You know.. When you decide to go play for another team.. that’s it. What the other team does is no longer your business. You left that team.. play for the one you chose to be on.
I just thought this was fitting for things I have seen and heard recently.. So I figured I would re-post it.
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