I have been told, by many that I have a way with words.  That I am a good linguist.  And that is a compliment that I believe to a certain extent.  I don’t think I am the greatest wordsmith in the world, there are definitely Poets out there who put what I write to shame.  And I’ve never written a Novel, although I probably should.

My problem now is that I need to figure out a way to channel this ability into verbal communications when I meet someone new.  When I meet someone I find attractive or have interest in.  Actually it’s simpler than that even.  I just have to learn how to break the ICE.

I don’t lack confidence in many areas, I think I am good at a lot of things, especially things that are important in life and in a relationship.  I am an excellent communicator, I may need to learn to be more tactful in some of my communication with women, especially the sensitive ones, but I do a good job of getting my point across while at the same time listening to the other point of view.

One place I am short on confidence is when it comes to approaching a woman who I find attractive or have interest in.  I’m not sure why it is, probably because I have control issues.  I have been damaged in relationships so many times that I have a need to maintain control of the situation and not allow myself be embarrassed.  (rejection not a big deal but embarrassment is for some reason)

So I don’t meet a lot of new people, which will make it hard to find the select few that I might click with when I’m not meeting that many.  I come up with excuses to put off doing so, like for example; I feel that I could be in much better shape, so a current excuse is that I need to get in shape first before I try to approach anyone because they will not be attracted to me (even though deep down I honestly know this isn’t true.. I am a somewhat attractive man, It’s just a self confidence issue).

So what was the point in this?  I need immersion therapy.  That’s how you conquer fears.  I need to be taken out and FORCED to meet people.  Forced to walk up to the women that I find attractive and to say something.. ANYTHING to them.  Once I do that.. things will begin to fall into place.

So who wants to help me with my immersion therapy?